Truth vs. Lie???

Life always presents a person with two options in a situation: tell the truth or lie. There are pros and cons to each scenario whether they tell the truth or they lie. A constant confusion is displayed when a situation takes place and the million dollar question is: "Should I tell the truth or should I lie?" For some, telling the truth is painful but it is necessary to maintain trust in the relationship. For others, telling the truth is a sign of weakness and defeat. Meaning if someone broke a lamp of their parents' and they had time to replace it, then telling the truth would not replace the lamp or make anyone feel better, so why not take advantage of not telling the truth and replace it if there is enough time? Both points of view are very reasonable to argue, but not everyone sees the bad in telling a lie and vice versa. Not everyone sees the good in telling the truth. I for one see it from all stand points...but there is one way that I would prefer over all.

I would rather someone to tell me the truth over a lie no matter how small or big. I was always taught that you tell the truth regardless of the situation. I decided to do it my way because I was hard headed (surprise, surprise!). I was goofing around with one of my very best friends and her mom had repeatedly told us not to throw rocks because eventually one of us would get hurt. Since we were “invincible” we figured that would never happen. Well as fate would have it one day I threw a rock across the street and she happened to bend down and look up right as the rock hit her by the eye. When her mom asked me what happened I was faced with two decisions: tell the truth or tell a lie. Well I tried to incorporate both, which did not serve me very well. I told some of the truth, but I took out the “I threw the rock” part. I did finally end up telling the whole truth, but her mom explained to me that had I told the truth in the beginning she would have been more accepting. (My friend did heal and she is ok now.) With that I began to understand that the truth was a good thing even when it was covered in bad.

As a person I prefer people to tell me the truth, because if they do not then I instantly lose trust in them and it makes me feel like they are unpredicatable. However, I can relate and understand some of the reasons why a lie would look like a better choice. A pro can be that the other person can still trust them and deem them as someone who owns up to their mistakes. That is a good characteristic to possess. Another pro can be that the weight of the incident is then lifted off of your shoulders. Cons of telling the truth would be hurting a person’s feelings, the person becoming angry, that person may also accuse them of lying, and/or they may not accept them. Even still in the end, I will be 100 times more receptive and understanding when I am approached with the truth. No matter how mean, harsh, cruel, heart breaking, or even outrageous the truth may sound.